In the teaching of Unique Self, the whole/part, autonomy/communion paradox is finally clarified. The Unique Self teaching allows us to create right relationship between whole and part, autonomy and communion. This right relationship is the absolute key to joy, creativity, meaning and peace.
The separate self is an illusion. Every separate self is really part of a larger whole. To realize oneself as part of a larger whole is to be sane. This is the ultimate communion. At the same time, the part is not absorbed in the larger whole, but is a distinct, unique part with reality and dignity. The unique part has its own Eros and eternity, which is precisely the Unique Self. This is the ultimate autonomy.
Dr. Marc Gafni
Your Unique Self (p. 144, 145)