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When you are in ego, people feel smaller when you walk into the room. They feel invisible before you. The result is that they feel depleted and in danger. When you are in your Unique Self, people feel bigger when you walk into the room. They feel seen by you. They feel your desire to love and give to them.
In this last video of our seven-part dialogue series, our two authors (Your Unique Self and Conscious Capitalism) discuss the issue of shadow – both in the context of our personal life as well as in the context of business. In our modern world the narrative of business seems to have become the shadow story, while its heroic part of creating value for humanity and the world has become hidden.
Additionally Dr. Marc Gafni brings the Unique Shadow into the discussion that can be easily recognized as the personal core-issue in each and every one of us that hints to and – when looked at – leads us back to our unlived Unique Self.
John Mackey is Chairman and CEO of Whole Foods Market, as well as the Co-Chair of the Center for World Spirituality Board of Trustees.
When you are in ego, you might help friends who are successful and even friends who are down, as long as it does not threaten your position. But you are not capable of truly delighting in your deepest heart in a friend’s large success. When you are in Unique Self, your deepest heart delights in your friend’s success, even if there is nothing in it for you at all.
The ego betrays. The Unique Self is loyal. When you are in your ego, and things go bad, you are willing—in your fear—to betray virtually anyone. Your ego is easily identifiable by the shallowness of its integrity. If you live in Unique Self and things go bad, you find your way, through thick or thin, to a deeper center of spirit.
In the sixth video of the seven-part dialogue series, Marc Gafni (author of Your Unique Self) and John Mackey (co-author with Raj Sisodia of Conscious Capitalism) define and discuss jealousy, malice, resentment, and envy in the framework of business, Unique Self, and Conscious Capitalism. In this discussion, they reach the conclusion that every negative emotion has its own hidden virtue and that there’s no negative emotion without a higher form. Join them as they unfold this understanding while pointing to the way that envy can be made conscious, can be understood with compassion, and can be transmuted into a higher form. As Marc says in the dialogue, when we are living from Unique Self, envy falls away and entrepreneurial creativity blossoms. Don’t miss this or any of their other discussions from this series, which are available on our website and at the Whole Foods blog.
from Dr. Marc Gafni’s Your Unique Self.
Ego reacts. Unique Self acts. Your ego is constantly in reaction to outside stimuli. It never thinks a spontaneous thought. It rarely acts because it is moved to do so by a freely arising thought or desire.
Unique Self is moved to action by the power and joy of its own authentic original impulse.
We are excited to announce a transformational 10-week Unique Self telecourse that starts April 24th!
For an example of this distinction at work, view Dan Pink’s summary of motivation science through this link. Pink describes how researchers have found over and over that contingent or extrinsic motivations, which appeal to the ego, block original thought, while intrinsic motivations, which appeal to the Unique Self, lead to more innovative solutions to difficult problems. Pink explains that across cultures people are motivated by:
–autonomy–the desire to direct our own lives,
–mastery–the desire to get better and better at something, and
–purpose–the desire to do what we do in the service of something larger than ourselves.
Unique Self is the route to the deepest and truest expression of all three.
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Marc Gafni and Ken Wilber continue the Unique Self dialogues with a segment of great interest to anyone concerned about healing modalities. Beginning with the opening question, “What would a Unique Self therapy look like?” and continuing on to groundbreaking discussion of nondual spiritual practice, this exchange provides numerous insights. From Wilber’s perspective, the essence of Unique Self therapy is uncovering the lies that we tell about ourselves, including lies about our grandeur. Wilber and Gafni concur that the Tibetan Buddhist practice of yidam (or “divine pride”) offers valuable wisdom that can be adapted for use within an integral Unique Self healing context.
This clip is a 16-minute excerpt which follows immediately from Part 7 on Unique Shadow. In the previous conversation, the pandits conclude that uniqueness paradoxically appears as a spontaneous level of consciousness at “second-tier,” the structure in which consciousness becomes more capable of looking at itself. They saw that key in charting the Unique Self’s position and understanding the nature of shadow is understanding is the relationship to levels of consciousness.
Marc: This is exciting. This is going to allow for the emergence of … here’s our next topic. What would Unique Self therapy look like? We’re working with as you know the board chair of CWS, Lori Galperin, and her clinical co-director Mark Schwartz, the leaders in treatment about developing a sort of Unique Self therapeutic modality. We’re now testing it. How would that work? What would that mean? This will be a key piece of the story: to be able to, for someone who is relatively healthy, to be able to chart: where am I in my level of consciousness? To be able to see the level of consciousness and bring levels of consciousness directly into the Unique Self conversation as part of an actual enacted therapeutic modality. That’s exciting.
Ken: I agree. There are any things involved in the therapeutics of the Unique Self. One of them is certainly coming face-to-face with the fundamental lie or lies that one has got caught up with in the course of one’s life, facing those, and attempting to determine the particular level that they come from, just because that helps to clarify the structure of the lie, the type of lie, when it happened, the relationships that were probably part of it. What sort of talents do you seem to have? People will lie about their talents just as frequently as they lie about their negatives. Maslow called it the Jonah complex. We’re afraid of our greatness as much as our negatives and our smallness. That fear of greatness is simply the fear of your own Unique Self. That’s a terrible position to be in. [Read More...]